Ariel Winter: How I Learned To Love My Body & Silence The Haters
Ariel Winter: How I Learned To Love My Body & Silence The Haters
The following is an interview withModern Family star Ariel Winter, the ambassador for Dove's#SpeakBeautiful campaign, which launches today. As told to Cat Quinn and edited for length and clarity.
I started out on Modern Familywhen I was 11 years old, and our show gained a lot of press fairly quickly. I underwent a drastic change with my body that year. When I was 11, I was completely flat-chested and super-skinny, and I got a lot of flak for that. I always felt embarrassed about it. And then, on my 12th birthday, I woke up and had a D-cup. I was completely different and a curvy girl. Automatically, I wondered how people were going to react online.
As soon I went to my first or second Emmys, I was criticized; I was called fat; I was told I was dressing like a slut because I had larger breasts. It was harder for me to dress my body but still feel good in what I was wearing. The criticism was really harsh and really difficult.
For many years, I was incredibly insecure about myself. I read the comments [on articles and social media], and it made me feel terrible and depressed and really stressed out...and I wanted to do everything I could to change to fit the standard of what I thought everyone online wanted me to look like. I gained weight, I lost weight, but no matter what I did I always got the same thing: There wasn't anything I could do to please anybody else.
And then, at a certain point, I really pushed myself to change the way I was thinking. I decided to have a better relationship with myself. I stopped reading the comments, because I didn't need to. I posted the photos I wanted to post, and whatever people wanted to say about it is what they said about it. And that worked out really well for me.
I started out on Modern Familywhen I was 11 years old, and our show gained a lot of press fairly quickly. I underwent a drastic change with my body that year. When I was 11, I was completely flat-chested and super-skinny, and I got a lot of flak for that. I always felt embarrassed about it. And then, on my 12th birthday, I woke up and had a D-cup. I was completely different and a curvy girl. Automatically, I wondered how people were going to react online.
As soon I went to my first or second Emmys, I was criticized; I was called fat; I was told I was dressing like a slut because I had larger breasts. It was harder for me to dress my body but still feel good in what I was wearing. The criticism was really harsh and really difficult.
For many years, I was incredibly insecure about myself. I read the comments [on articles and social media], and it made me feel terrible and depressed and really stressed out...and I wanted to do everything I could to change to fit the standard of what I thought everyone online wanted me to look like. I gained weight, I lost weight, but no matter what I did I always got the same thing: There wasn't anything I could do to please anybody else.
And then, at a certain point, I really pushed myself to change the way I was thinking. I decided to have a better relationship with myself. I stopped reading the comments, because I didn't need to. I posted the photos I wanted to post, and whatever people wanted to say about it is what they said about it. And that worked out really well for me.
Over the years, I had some really great role models. I worked with Sofía Vergara since I was a young girl and she helped me navigate being a curvy woman and being proud of it. My sister was always confident in herself, too, and I always aspired to be like that. Through a lot of amazing women, I definitely started to change my opinion. I started to tell myself, Well, it didn't work to change yourself into what they wanted, because at the end of the day people are gonna say what they want regardless. I should just be what makes me happy, and that's it.
Looking back, it makes me really sad that that's the time I grew up in, and that's what was being promoted in the media: the way I looked at 12 and 13 years old — instead of the fact that I was really lucky to be on the show, and that I was working hard and that I was doing my best in school. It's unfortunate that people don't understand that behind their words online, there is a person sitting there reading [what they write] who is just trying to live their life and be who they are.
Looking back, it makes me really sad that that's the time I grew up in, and that's what was being promoted in the media: the way I looked at 12 and 13 years old — instead of the fact that I was really lucky to be on the show, and that I was working hard and that I was doing my best in school. It's unfortunate that people don't understand that behind their words online, there is a person sitting there reading [what they write] who is just trying to live their life and be who they are.
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I THINK IT'S REALLY IMPORTANT TO TALK MORE ABOUT WOMEN'S ISSUES THAN ABOUT OUR DRESSES.
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There's been such a focus on women and their bodies and what they wear, and so much less of a focus on our minds and how we feel and our opinions on things. I think now women are mainly used as dolls that people like to dress up, but that they don't really like to hear from. We spend so much time on websites talking about women's dresses at awards shows, and that's all people see — that's all they learn to talk about. I know it's harder to get the media to change, but I think it's really important to talk more about women's issues than about our dresses.
I was really upset that my graduation dress came under fire, because I worked really hard in high school and I was really excited to have gotten into UCLA and that was what my graduation party was for. But not one outlet talked about that. All they talked about was the underboob on the dress I wore to my party. And that was really disappointing.
[After I decided to get breast-reduction surgery,] I definitely had a lot of people who were bashing me for being affiliated with body-positivity campaigns, and telling me, "You got plastic surgery, so basically you don't promote body positivity and you don't love yourself." And that's completely untrue. As soon as I had large breasts, I was severely uncomfortable; I had really bad back problems; I couldn't fit into a lot of clothes; I had really bad indents in my shoulders from heavy bras; I could barely stand up straight. I felt it was necessary for me, and I made the choice entirely for me. I think it can definitely be empowering if you make a change for yourself that you always felt you wanted. If it raises your self-esteem and makes you more confident, then it's up to you and you should do whatever you want.
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